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[Elly4]

Mu, I agree with Fo. Go back to your art and creativity! Wondering about what she's thinking and feeling is a cheeseless tunnel!

*hugs*

E

[mutatio]

Thanks Fo, thanks Elly, I will continue to work on myself and make the most of each day. How do you cope with the lack of intimacy? For me it is like a big empty room in my house.

[mutatio]

I find myself in an interesting bind. I want to post but when I sit, there are no words. What does this mean? Is there any deeper significance to this besides that nothings changed?

[ARose]

Mut. I feel the same way lately. How much snow did you get?

[dday]

Mu, I have found that I talk to people a lot more than I used to. It doesn't exactly fill the hole that is left from WW, but it helps. It's like placing a round peg in a square hole. It takes up space, but isn't a good fit.

Maybe you have nothing to post because you are starting to do better? I don't have the urge to post as much either. I mostly just check in on friends here.

Sorry you are snowbound. I hope that you can find a way to enjoy it!

[mutatio]

10 hours to do the driveway, walks and stoop. Our town made it on eyewitness news. We got 30 inches. Wife's coming upstairs, ttyl

[dday]

Damn! 30" is crazy. We get 4 or so and people go nuts. Of course a half inch makes many people unable to drive, lol

[Vanilla]

Some questions to answer without being too foolish

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[roist]

Maybe you feel writing is pointless.It'all change nothing so why bother. Part of you needs/wants to get something out. Another part is blocking that. You could be a little down and not motivated.Idk. I think this place is also addictive so maybe you feel you need to post but really you don't.A third possibility is that you have something to say but are not used to expressing yourself so you don't know how. Time will tell, you don't need to stress about it, but do think about it.

The lack of intimacy/affection is tough. It is hard but it can be done.
It helps me to accept that this is only a phase I have to go through.
I am certain I will have love and affection afterwards.If I hope that to be with W, we must get through this stage. Accept it and try put focus on other aspects of your life. For me that is kids, improving me and work. I put up with this situation as a stepping stone to a better future. If I think too much about that side of things I doubt how much longer I will put up with it. So until I am happy with the new me, I try to not dwell on this.

I came across something last week that I wanted to share with you. I read about this couple in a situation similar to yours. The hardest part for the H was how his W would ignore his hello/goodbye and basically acted like your W. This guy had had enough and wanted out. His M coach got him to confront W. I don't remember his exact words but he told his W that it was not acceptable to be treated worse than she would treat a stranger. That this was not an attempt to reconcile but a question of common courtesy. The second I read this I thought about you. I hope you think about it and try it. It really improved interactions for this other guy.

Best wishes

[JksD]

Mu, I feel the same. There's nothing new to update for my own sitch and like dday, I'd rather check in on friends.

Maybe this is a phase. Maybe we're detaching.