By the way JB, I wasn't including you with "society", and when I used the word 'you', it wasn't YOU, it was just the hypothetical 'one could' do such and such. Just want to be clear on that.
Also, I recognize that I may be judgmental and critical and controlling, and my dislike for divorce is a reflection of my pain from my loss and me continuing to be critical of my XW's choice. But I don't think that's all of it. I also think I'm a good man, and could be a good partner in a relationship. And I am sad we didn't get the chance to find out. Everyone is capable of change if you give them enough time IMHO. And if they don't, at least you'll know you did what's right and your part.
OK, my new 180 goal- 24 hours without a tirade about commitment. Starting...NOW!
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
