It's all blowing up

[rich4j]

My L is just engaged now. had initial meeting last week and without going into too much detail I am in a tough situation as she hasnt worked in 10 years and I have supported the family. It will be tough for me all around but I want to make sure my duaghter doesnt suffer a bit. W is so selfish and has no clue the impact on her. Keeps using the "resilient " word....too much reading.

Would mommy have taken her sledding today with all the kids in 3 ft of snow? Not this mommy....

LITB I haven't agreed to anything and L said she isn't leaving the state with my daughter so no fear there. W isn't planning on it right now but I know she wants that to happen sooner than later...not on my watch.

L will be running the numbers and I will be "up the creek" but not really focused on this. Just trying to continue to DB and keep my cool thru this.

I try to stay positive but am a realist. She asked her lawyer to get the papers going so she will be filing. I have to figure things out once the lawyers start their dance as I don't sense the brakes being put on.

I read so much about so many people regretting the big D a year later and wish they worked harder to make things work. I told her months ago before this got really bad, "make sure you don't have regrets". Big sigh