Hi Rouky, thank you so much for answering my questions.
Originally Posted By: Rouky
If he doesn't leave far from you, can he not come and collect kids and bring them back or you drop them back and pick them up?
If not possible, could you stay in your bedroom and read a good book?
H has no intention of taking the kids round to his Dad's where he is living. It is not a pleasant environment by any means. I could stay upstairs when he comes round. I did this in the beginning so perhaps I will do this again now. Neither staying around or being absent has made any difference so both seem to be cheese less tunnels as far as DBing is concerned.
Originally Posted By: Rouky
If you tell him you know about FB, the motorbike, that wouldn't be detaching. Personally I'd say nothing.
I'm not so much bothered about the FB - that is not a big deal, apart from the fact that he listed himself as single, that hurt, but I can let that go. As for the bike, the point with that is, it has cost £1000s! We do not have the money. The only way he has bought this is either a) borrowing from his Dad, b) paying for it with the credit card he has taken out or c) taken out a loan. I really don't feel that this is acceptable for someone who is wanting to divorce. He has told me to get the visa (which is joint spending) paid off so that he can divorce me but then he spends £1000s on a bike behind my back!?!?!
Originally Posted By: Rouky
For the finances as it's a joint account you must be able to have access to the bank statement and see what has been done with it. At the moment, I'll say don't rock the boat.
I do have access to all the banking information. He is taking substantial amounts out every 10 days or so, probably to pay off whichever borrowing method he has used to buy the bike.
Originally Posted By: Rouky
Going dark is doing me a world of good, and I don't think about STBXH as much as 2 weeks ago!
Sending you loads of hugs ((((((((((IP))))))))))
I wish I could go as dark as you have. It seems impossible with the way H is running the show at the moment. Thank you for the hugs, I really need them!
