Hi Tamjkar, hopefully you can see from your text reach-out, that it is detrimental to do that just now. Your H is 'turned away' from the M just now. That may or may not always be the case - but for now it is.

Please don't beat yourself up too much about this, but do learn the lesson and avoid doing this again. We all make mistakes when DBing, but the main thing is not to keep making them.

Your time would be best spent focusing on yourself. Can I suggest you have a look at the Codependent No More book? I'm reading it at the moment, and many on this forum have found it helpful.

Now - step away from that phone and no-one gets hurt!! Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus