Quote: you can't rationally base a decision on whether or not a person should disovle their marraige based on what you hear from just one of them.
Now, lostlove. You're talking to Hairdog, here. When has rationality ever entered into any of the advice I give here? All my advice is worth exactly what the taker has paid for it. I'm not a professional counselor, just an average, HD guy.
And COGal, understand that my advice to you is not unbiased. Maybe I'm just trying to break up your marriage so that there's one more unattached babe out there if I ever end up single again.
Peace.
Hairdog,
Though I did speak to your post I wasn't speaking only to you. Often times on this bb we are compelled to give our raw gut opinion of what others should do without thinking about it rationally. That's fine for the advice giver and sometimes fine for the advice seeker...however often when people come to this bb to post they are seeking rational advice from unbiased people who may be dealing with similar issues/feeling etc.
Though several times over the past couple of years I've read of people trying to get back a spouse that I thought they should be happy to have lost I bit my tounge. It's not my place to say what kind of person their spouse is based on what little information given.
It may very well sound like I'm sticking up for COgal's h but I'm not...I'm thinking of BOTH parties best interest and I don't always see divorce as the optimum solution. if I did I'd be telling every single person on this bb to go file and rid themselves of the pain in the butt they married.
Sorry to be the only supporter of your m here COgal but someone has to be in favor of it, after all you yourself were in favor of it at one time not that long ago.
