Good job!!! Well done....spectacular. I like MB's advice for the Sunday game. I'd add that if W talks about house stuff at the game (if she ever does), just simply say, "Let's not talk about that as we're at the game...let's enjoy this. Talk later."
MB,
This Wonka is a girl with a pink boa around her shoulders!
So far so good re: dog. I didn't give him any breakfast, so hopefully things are settling down.
I went to the grocery store this morning and spotted the woman who introduced me to W. I couldn't turn away and go down the next aisle fast enough. I didn't want to have to tell her about all this, and I didn't want any more people to know. The more that know the more real it is. Grocery shopping is hard enough as it is. It's what I always did for US. I realize I'm co-dependent, and I've put a hold on the book Co-Dependent No More at the library. I also want to read The Lost Art of Listening. Wonka recommends that.
The living situation is OK. The woman I share the downstairs with is rather sour and keeps to herself. I'm going to practice relationship skills on her. All the things I would be afraid to say to a partner for fear of irritating or starting a fight... I'm going to be upfront and open and see how it goes with sour woman. The mom and son upstairs are nice and want to be more social. I like my alone time, but it's nice to have people around.
For my Rebuilding Seminar I have to write a good-bye letter to W before tomorrow night. I'm dreading it. I know I'll cry. Oh well... nothing new there I guess.
As usual, I'm sort of exhilarated to see W like I did last night, and then sad when reality sets in again the next day. I miss her. But I'm keeping busy.
xo to you all
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
This Wonka is a girl with a pink boa around her shoulders!
OOPS! Sorry Wonka. When I see your screen name I think of Willie Wonka and he's a guy, so guess I assumed you were too. I stand corrected. . So, am I to assume that you don't look anything like Ike Gene Wilder either? LOL
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
The living situation is OK. The woman I share the downstairs with is rather sour and keeps to herself. I'm going to practice relationship skills on her. All the things I would be afraid to say to a partner for fear of irritating or starting a fight... I'm going to be upfront and open and see how it goes with sour woman.
That's the spirit NYGal! You are too funny. You'll have to let us know how you progress with sour woman.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
I don't shop much either. This divorce diet is nice. Save money AND lose weight!
Saturday night, no GAL activities for me tonight, but that's OK. I might watch a movie -- French Kiss. A friend says I'll enjoy it. I hope she's right, since otherwise a romance might not be what I want right now...
Saturdays are tough. Date night. I try not to focus on W and OW, but it's inevitable. I really want to use this time as a gift to heal and become a better person and a better partner.
I have to remind myself that this is the only thing I can do right now. We're all on here because we're still healing. Consequently, we don't hear a lot of the stories of people getting back together and making it work, because I guess they disappear. I know the only thing I can do is keep learning. But damn, can't we get a break once in a while? I would love to snuggle with someone other than my dogs. Nothing else, just snuggle.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
My dogs are even too tired to snuggle. They are both snoring on the floor by my bed. And I couldn't get the DVD to play on my laptop, and since I don't have a TV here... I'm outta luck. Darn. Why won't the darn thing play??
Not a good night.
I'm so tired of this panicky feeling in my chest. This time of my life can't be over quick enough. I am so miserable. I just want some relief. But it never comes. It's so bizarre to not be able to pick up the phone and hear W's voice and have her say goodnight, honey. Oh boy, here come the tears. I'm so sick of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I started reading the Lost Art of Listening. I think it will be a good book. Thanks, Wonka, for the suggestion.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
. So, am I to assume that you don't look anything like Ike Gene Wilder either? LOL