Thanks NYGal. I only wish I could take my own advice! I never seem to know or be able to do the right thing when it comes to my own H. UGH!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
Hi Rain, I feel so much for you. I'm just going to tell you what it's happening to me now and I feel so much better. Two weeks ago I saw photos of STBXH with OW on NYE! It killed me for a week as I thought that I could R with him. Then on Sunday a week ago I felt so bad that I even considered the worse. Then I realised that I couldn't do it to my kids. So here and there I decided to go dark. I drop my kids at his, collect them from there. I don't see him. He just texted me about the sale of the house. I haven't seen him, and I can tell you that I don't think about him as much as I used to. I feel happier, more relaxed. On his part, when he has the kids later he let himself in, then initiate conversation with me from downstairs as I'm always upstairs doing something and won't come down.
I know it sounds childish but STBXH hasn't done anything to come towards me. I know he is really gone and I feel so much happier not seeing him. I'm not saying what I'm doing is right, but I'm no longer on this roller coaster since I have gone dark and I'm so much better! Just my two cents :-)
Then on Sunday a week ago I felt so bad that I even considered the worse. Then I realised that I couldn't do it to my kids.
Rouky this made me so sad. I'm sorry you ever felt this badly. (((rouky)))
I read your thread and I know how terrible it was for you seeing him and ow on FB. But I am happy that you are protecting yourself now.
And just like AnnaBs H they don't like it at all when you do something different. Or as Ancaire says when you step out of the box they have you in.
MB I will respond to you later as XF did what? Showed up unannounced, I was at starbucks and he was not happy that I wasn't home. And this happens to be after his brothers ex told him she thinks I am going out tonight. Why she she thought that I have idea. My Saturday night plans included watching Mysteries of Laura and popcorn.
And ugh why do he have to look so good and smell even better? I haven't had sex in way too long ladies
If only he didn't look like a calvin Klein model. Damn him!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
[quote=Rouky]. And ugh why do he have to look so good and smell even better? I haven't had sex in way too long ladies
If only he didn't look like a calvin Klein model. Damn him!
We ALL know how you feel on that one! So tired of not even having that option available to me any longer. But, at least I get to know that H gets to have it on a regular basis! It just sickens me.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
It sux...I know. During the PA we suddenly were infrequent. Then when I found out about it sex stopped completely, because, he promised ow he would be faithful, yes he really did. That is when I got my own place. Then eventually that tapered off when I wouldn't stay in my box and told him I was thinking of moving back home.
Then the EA started and when it was at it's most "romantic" sex was mechanical at best. I started feeling used. So back to no sex. My choice.
Then I estimate 5 or 6 months before BD we started again and it was like before. And even more frequent.
So I remember vividly knowing he was having sex while I didn't have the option unless I went out looking for it, which I never did.
I have to start a new thread and I'll get back to everyone.
