In the Arena III- Becoming Hilariously Pleased

[Vanilla]

There is a difference between self esteem and self worth.

With self esteem we rely on how the world values us and we do so accordingly. High when we perform and low when we don't. Not enormously useful as it roller coaster ride in extremis. All the best screen psychos have high esteem and arrogance. This leads to unhealthy guilt and shame, inauthenticity and dissonance. The superficial smiles of FB. Transitory stability and ever drive to perform to excessive standards. An external measure.

It has its place as recognition and achievement together with the trappings of success and the disgrace of failure. The happiest on the podium steps is the gold medal winner then bronze and then silver. Many silver medal winners consider themselves second best. It's so sad.

Measuring ourselves on our self worth, as how we hold ourselves and our intentions is much better. Healthy guilt and shame holds us to account and we can allow ourselves foibles and mistakes. That's ok.

Self worth is our higher power at work. An internal measure.

We need to measure ourselves with the right yardstick.

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