DO NOT KEEP ASKING HIM ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Stop this. Stop this. Stop this. It is the absolute worse thing you can do and will drive him away. Every time he answers he has to answer with a "i haven't changed my mind" and this just makes it stick more in his own mind. No matter how nice or intimate he is being, do not ask this. It will drive him away.
Stay friendly and upbeat. Joke around with him. Treat him how he is treating you But disappear and get a life. Keep yourself scarce. Do it in a nice way. Go out to dinner with friends. Start going to gym. Dress up nice and let him wonder where it is you are going (again in a nice not obvious way)
Get Intel, talk to lawyer. ASAP. Figure out finances close joint accounts. Make money disappear. DO NOT DO ANYTHING BASED ON GETTING HIM BACK. Trust me, it won't help. Make all your decisions especially financially based on what is best for you and children. He won't appreciate it and he won't respect it right now. Be polite about it though. Others here can help you with wording things better then I.
Be smart about this and put your hurt feelings on the back burner.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
