In the Arena III- Becoming Hilariously Pleased

[JulieH]

Zues really interesting perspective
Foggy that's some really great insight about weight loss. Interesting regarding allowing yourself to be imperfect but actually preventing you from any binging

JellyB

I still stand by my love for people that are flawed. (My favorite characters were never the Disney princesses but I love those wicked witches! So much more fun and interesting and they always had depth Lol ).

Seriously though, we love Lucy because of her faults. Didn't you love grace and Karen from will and grace? Totally flawed. My best friend does so many things that are wrong but I love her for it. Ancaire, I never want you to suffer but I love you because you had the passion and righteousness to run into that truck. To be honest I would tell that story with pride (once it's a little bit more behind you) because it gives your soul lots of color.

A long time ago I wrote something pretty cruel and cutting about male and female dynamics...but honest to my best friend. This comment made us both look insensitive and pretty bad. It was more of a joke though. Like a joke where it's so bad but it's really joking about badness. Hard to explain. She had broken things off with her boyfriend at the time and he was mad at her and hacked into her transcripts and sent my husband a copy of what was written. My husband told me he did not read it and did not want to get involved. He joked with me, " I already know how nasty you can be. Your not sweet and innocent like everyone thinks". And we both laughed.

My point is that in a healthy relationship, you don't have to be perfect. Because your imperfections are what makes you you. You don't have to be perfect to have someone love you. They will love you because of your flaws. So embrace them laugh at them and then move on. Focus on the good things about you and keep building that up.

I really think it's as easy as that to learn to like yourself.