Quote: I met with my counselor today; H didn't show even though he was aware of the appointment. was he expected to? was he invited to? was it discussed that he would or wouldn't? Counselor was very upfront about the fact that H is a player. she was upfront with this fact? or do you mean she was upfront with her OPINION based upon her A$$umptions? The moving out, seeing me, walking away, and having me break down in tears each time is all part of his "game" according to her. yup! according to HER. She said that there absolutely should be no taking him back, regardless of what he promises sorry to say sounds like you've got one of those dumb councelors who's got some certificate that they think gives them the right to TELL people what they should and shouldn't do.
Point is COgal you have to make your own decisions based on your own feelings NOT based on what anyone else thinks you should do. It is the c's job to help you sort through YOUR thoughts/feelings/assumptions/expectations/goals etc NOT to tell you what s/he thinks you should do.
I've asked you several times to take a look at dr or db they will help you answer some of the questions you ask.
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re councellors...there is a forum on this bb called "when therapy hurts" take a look if you want.
