It's all blowing up

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Yes, it does come from experience. When you don't argue back, you don't add fuel to the fire. Essentially, it serves you no purpose to argue with her In her mind, she is right.

My W has told me that she didn't know what to do when I wouldn't argue back. I can tell you one day she threatened me with more child support and spousal support, etc. I told her to do what she needed to do. Believe it or not, she apologized later in the week. I'm not telling you this is what will happen in your case. However, when you have boundaries, respect will follow.

Glad to hear you are not moving out.

I find that people who listen to the advice, help themselves immensely. When people follow their intuition, they get in their own way. To your credit, you have been listening.

You'll eventually see the fruits of your labor. Stay the course and keep posting.