Hanging in there with hope

[Sotto]

Hi Tamjkar, Job as always gives wise advice and patience is key. I think as part of this process, it helps to face and accept our worst fears. Losing H would certainly have been one of my worst fears. I have lost him, and I am starting out alone again, and it isn't always easy. That said, I am a firm believer that there are joys and blessings to be found in whatever avenue your life takes - even if it isn't one you asked for! There is much I have come to enjoy about my 'new' life and I'm sure you would also get to that place if you invest effort in the right places and keep moving forwards.

I understand your concerns about H possibly moving in with OW. But, also remember that A's thrive on fantasy, secrecy etc. If H and OW did move in together, they end up facing all the drudgery and reality that life brings - dripping laundry, washing up, stinky poops, irritating habits, loud chewing. Truly, most R's that started out as A's don't survive that. Food for thought anyway.

Keep on doing what you're doing - and try and keep the focus off H as much as possible (I know it isn't easy...)

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