Just to be clear ....back in 2012 around Feb, W saw a book on my Kindle, not DB but another book on how to stop D. It was a book I didn't agree with, but she read some of it and thought that all my 'changes' were a ploy to stop a separation. Back then she never talked about D , just separation.
She went cold, distant, uncommunicative, etc, and I decided to 'engineer' a split for a few weeks. I worked away in the week and then stayed in holiday accommodation at the weekend close to where we live.
This lasted 3/4 weeks then I said I was moving back home. W went batsh1t crazy and threatened to see an L immediately. I then backed down, and said I would look for somewhere else to live. I actively looked for a place, went and looked at apartments, etc. W calmed down and helped me look for a place. She was suddenly warm, and engaging, the tension bubble had been burst
Then 18 days into his process W did a sudden backflip and said she wanted to work on M.
She gave me a list of thoughts and things to work on (most of these I had been doing for several months). I have still got this list, and haven't back tracked on many of them. Some issues (mainly intimacy and sex were not addressed.
We didn't go to counselling or talk through everything properly as it was a new honeymoon period....I guess this lasted about 18 months.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
