But you know what...I have had the same convo with my H in the past too. And then the next thing you know, he is gps tracking me when I go to buy groceries because he is afraid I'm seeing another man. They are all over the place. It means nothing. It's heartbreaking to hear, but see it for only what it is and don't give it more importance than it deserves. He kept pushing for a response because that was the whole goal of saying it. He wanted to get a rise out of you. You aren't running back to him and giving him what he wants, so he's trying a different tactic to get to you. Go NC on his butt like you are totally fine with it, and I'd be willing to bet he will be back in pursuit in no time at all.
Anna I have a question. I really do need to go Dark but absolutely totally black is not an option because we have young kids. So what I did before was ignore his texts wishing me a great day and saying he loves me etc. I only replied to kid related texts.
My question is that if he keeps true to his cycle and goes into pursuit mode and does want to come around or take us out or whatever. What do I do?
I have SUCH a hard time being cordial to him in person. Let alone happy and fun. It hurts not seeing him but it is easier at the same time.
But when he feels like if I'm okay he comes around more and even, I feel, tries to bait me. For instance when he spent money on those sites while leaving us without what we needed. He came here to bring my child support and said "I'm sorry that money has been tight and I will get your car checked out soon...please be patient"
But uh no...money isn't tight. YOU made it tight by spending almost 1000 on those sites and cam girls. Which is what I said. So he says....see this is what im talking about! You're always on me. You cant let anything go!
Wth!
It was literally the week and DAY before that conversation.
So with that rant over.lol....if he does come around am I meant to smile and laugh and be his best friend while he is here and act like if he Isn't doing what he is clearly doing?
