Kyrie, I think your fear is that no matter what you do or say, your h will continue to be your biggest critic. That he will Not be a fan of yours, or a teammate or partner or protector or provider...(which are terms most people's use to describe "good husbands.")
IF that ^^ is the case, you still have choices.
I also asked you if you believe you deserve to be happy. You were uncomfortable with the word "Deserve" and felt that was like asking you if you have "earned" it or that it may imply some selfishness on your end.
I sure don't see it that way. But maybe another way of asking you is , do you feel you deserve your h's disappointment/disrespect/criticism? If so, why?
I really believe You can be the author of your life. You can decide how this chapter goes, and how the next chapters are written. Think about how you'd like them to happen.
Maybe so 25years. Choices - beyond what we've already discussed?
Deserving disappointment, sure. I KNOW I've let him down, disrespected & hurt him. I own that. Disrespect & criticism is another matter.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
