Sotto- yes, i've felt that this is mlc for several months and I've read a ton on the subject. For me, I don't revert back to MLC as the sole reason that he and I are in this position, but it's always in the back of my mind. I also don't let it change my approach to things as we just don't have many interactions. I wonder if I should?
The signs are all there: major financial set back before BD, doing everthing to find fullfilment in life, death anxiety, feeling trapped, "I just want to be happy!", new clothes, new eating habits, more emphasis on appearance (wants plugs/ wears makeup if he has a blemish), new friends- his closest is 22 years younger than him, desire to drop all old friends who didn't make him happy, New personality, "I'm so much happier not worrying about you", bought a Harley, drop of job in pursuit of childhood dreams.....
On the other hand, I've also thought of him as the guy who is simply done when he says he's done. He seems very, very done right now and hasn't wavered since the separation. I just don't know.
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
