Focus, you never know. NY is a wonderful place, but it can be stressful too. Any change is stressful. You don't know what he'll experience. The time and distance might be just what you both need.
Do you have any reason to believe OW will be in NY with H?


11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat