Stepping in a Different Direction

[Pax_luv]

Alrighty, H and I spoke for an hour and a half about the D and it went as expected.

Surprisingly though... I am good! I facetimed with my sister and mom afterwards and laughed and was genuinely happy... I'm not a basketcase at all! Haha!

I'm just going to type out the gist, so my apologies if this rambles...

The biggest issue on the table is house.... H is crazy over the house and is freaked out that I am going to go after it. This I knew it advance and he brought it up BIG TIME tonight. He said he did not want to use lawyers for this, that if we did use lawyers, he was going to fight. He said a judge will likely make me owe him spousal support and then basically said I have no claim to the house. Keep in mind, I've never asked for the house.... I just said, this is a business transaction and I want what the state says I should have. I'm not looking for anything more.....
He went on and on and on and on about how much he supported me, how I wouldn't be where i was today if it weren't for him, that if I didn't accept his "deal" in the next 48 hours, then it's off the table and it's gone forever.....

So that was a lot of spew, but I kept my cool and was able to make jokes and even be a little light about all of it. He told me he was getting angry and defensive about the house... and I just had to laugh and say, "Ok OK I get it, you're worried about the house! Geezz!" I said this with a huge grin trying to lesson the tension....I told him, this was our first discussion about this all and we just need to talk it out. no decisions are going to be made tomorrow.
Literally, it was ALL about me going after the house and how it would all blow up if I went after it. He was angry saying, he thought he knew me, but he was wrong. I'm not sure I did well with the validating, but I had my emotions in check. Even brought up some of the other things we need to deal with: Health Insurance, Taxes, etc.

So, here's where we're at ( I think )- He wants us to sign a MSA and divide everything ourselves and submit that when we file. He told me what he was willing to give me and gave me 48 hours to think about it.

Honestly, I don't know that I need feedback on this right here, but I can see clearly what is going on. Please don't waste your energy in trying to reply to this! And trust me... I'm good.

Next post is going to be about the things that made me go HMMMMMM....