Hey Fade,
Keeping the secret of her A is not what is killing me. It's because I haven't fully detached yet. Still a work in progress, but getting closer every day.
Everything happened too quickly. 7 months ago, I was happily married (at least in my mind). A few weeks ago I was dealing with a WAW.
Then it was an OM in the picture, in vivid 3D detail.
It is all just a lot to process sometimes.
I understand your view on outing her A. I've questioned my L about it several times. For now, I will stick with his game plan.
Once I can get past the emotional part, it's all just leverage and business.


Me-40's
W- 40's
Married 22, Together 29
BD#1- 6/15 W needs space
BD#2- OM confirmed PA 1/8/16
Still both home, but not for long