I am sorry that she is putting you through this, she has no idea how lucky she is to have a good man who is willing to put up with this for so long.
This does not take anything away from how much I hate affairs of any kind (EA or PA), but I can endure for now because I know I was part of the problem and that she was suffering for a long time before she went down her dark path. I just wonder if she'll find her way home before I move on
SciDad, you are right, and you are a kind and compassionate man. I am feeling the anger today so I will not say any more. But I am on the same page as you. I don't want to move on but at the same time, I have to.
This, of course, won't be popular but all you brothers of mine need to get out there and "blow out some cobwebs" if you know what I mean. You owe it to yourself. It doesn't have to mean anything serious. If the W is in it then sure, stick it out, be a good boy. If she's moving on then you owe it to yourself blow off some steam.
If you're over 40, or approaching it, you have to know that single women over 40 outnumber you at least 5-1. It's insane out there. With the digital age making this so much easier let me tell you if you're in shape (or if you need to, get in shape), your income is steady, and you're a good man then you will get absolutely swamped by wonderful women that would love to get to know you better. This advice is not for those working on R, obviously, but some of you guys need to know that you're still a catch. Trust me fellas, the waters are fine out there. Stop being so sad all the time. There will always be time to sit around the house and cry later. Your W's no longer get a say in your comings and goings so don't waste that.
I think there's a reason most affairs start at work - convenience. Turns out that waywards are so lazy that can't even make an effort to find a good replacement. Apparently having a pulse and being nearby is all it takes...
And if it's not a coworker, why do they always pick someone from their past? It's not even like they met this new person that is just so dang amazing that they can't resist. If only they had met them before their spouse......or whatever. If the person from their past was so special, why did' they try for them FIRST? I mean, if there is such a connection, why did they ever let them get away?
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
. If you're over 40, or approaching it, you have to know that single women over 40 outnumber you at least 5-1. It's insane out there.
This is very encouraging for the women left behind....NOT!! Sounds like 4 out of 5 of us would be doomed to be alone?? Surely that can't be right.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
Well, crap! What if they're all married to each other?!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
Maybe the over 40 thing is why the OW decided to start seeing my W? Too much competition for her sorry a$$?
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Might I add... the formerly dating men OW who is now seeing my W.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
