I have been a doormat for too long and I have done all the wrong things believe me if you want advice on what does not work then I am your man
Listen to the pros here I wish I had do pen this months ago
For me I am late to the game but now it is all about me ...I will always love my w and I have not given up hope on the m but I will control what I can control
Just don't ask me to to sell the house but I will decide when I am ready nothing is going to happen quickly
Take care hugs
Ghost
It sounds like you're finding your spine. That is awesome. You need that. Our wives love to run the house. I know mine did. Was she ever shocked when she tried that after her A and I told her (sorry but I stole it from American Beauty) "No no. You don't get to tell me what to do....ever again."
The comfort of our marriage had lulled me into a state where I was not king of my own castle. Now I am. Now she knows it and she wants to be my queen. For 18+ months I groveled and begged. She had zero respect for me. When I really truly detached and said I was going to file for divorce, and I started truly moving on, was when it flipped the roles and all the sudden all her "I don't know what I want" became "I've made HUGE mistakes, please forgive me, we're meant to be together...blah blah blah."
Women don't respect weak men. They just don't. Be the king of your castle no matter what that castle is. Invite her to be the queen but in a relationship there are rules for both parties. If she wants to be part of your life then great. If not, there are plenty of other queens that would.
Find your strength, you're all good people, and have worth.
