"Do you want to move back in?" Yes, I most certainly did and still believe I do. I loved my house. Its just never been an option.
Truth be told, my questioning stems from fear. I've always been afraid of crossing h out of fear that it would hinder reconciliation. Back when there were interactions between h and I (many many many months ago) I allowed him to step on me, but I thought it was ok as long as he was feeling like he was getting what he wanted. I wanted to be accomodating. That was way before DB! Oyy- stupid girl. Now, I'm still afraid if I broach the legal aspect of this... It will hinder reconciliation. The truth is, he hasn't given me a nugget of any interest in 7 months, and most importantly, my actions can't be based on what he will/ will not do. I have to protect myself here and that may mean having to file.
A big mistake a lot of us make is being a doormat. You can't nice them back. It doesn't work. Haven't you ever dumped anyone? If they took it bad and cried and begged that never worked on you. If they groveled and did anything you want that just made them look weak and pathetic to you. We all want to be with someone strong. Not someone needy and pathetic. Be strong. Move on. I'm a man. I know men. He'll want what he can't have. The only ex's I ever wanted back in my life were those who moved on easily and met other people. The ex's that pined after me never stood a chance. That's human psyche for whatever it's worth.
