Pinn, I told ya, she's tempt checking. Whenever she decides to check out ole Pinn to see if he's still emotionally attached, and he doesn't act like a puppy trying to lick her face and his tail wagging 90 MPH, she gets pi$$y. So, let her! You LBH'S are so darn scared the WW is going to never contact you again!
I don't know why I keep wasting my breath, but here I go again. Have you ever watched an old classic movie where it showed a female doing something.....say like dropping her lace handkerchief on the ground to see if the gentleman she passed would pick it up and chase after her to hand it to her? I know that's a little far fetch from the forward actions of women these days, however, females have played little games (sweet or very dangerous) since the beginning of time. Your WW was playing a game. She was checking to see if you were going to jump on that hanky and start showing her how interested you really are in her.
The smart guy, in those movie scenes, would be a gentleman......hand her hanky to her (but would not chase her down), tip his hat, and gracefully continue walking on as though he never gave her another thought. It usually frustrated the silly females who were accustomed to manipulating men who would jump through hoops to get an excuse to talk to her. It might even anger her if she'd tried to get this particular gentleman to fall for her little tricks......but the funny thing is......he would be the guy who she kept trying to get, instead of those others who would run a mile to give her hanky back. That is how it has always been, and it will continue to be!
You didn't jump as quick and as high as she wanted, and just like any other WW who tempt checks and fails........she got pi$$y. Well let her! Why are you worried? As long as you are the cool guy, she will keep trying. But the minute you start giving her answers about why you didn't say more in your replies, etc., etc., she's disinterested b/c she knows she still has you in the palm of her hand.
When will you men learn this? This is not hard to understand. "I know Sandi, but it's so hard to do". Really? Even if you know you are deleting an opportunity to let it develop into something further? Even if you know you've shot yourself in the foot every time you fall for one of her tempt checks? Even though you know she's playing with you and seeing if she can make a bigger fool out of you?
Do you really want to know when she's authentic in what you think is her "reaching out"? That's what most men call it, when she's really doing nothing more than tempt checking. They say, "But what if she was reaching out and I didn't respond, then I've lost her forever". Listen, if the woman is still wayward......forget her contacts. If she is sincerely wanting to be with you in a MR.......she will not act like a b'tch when you don't respond to some idiotic text after 6 or 7 months of NC. If she acts like a jerk, then she's still wayward and you need to get as far away from her as possible. No explanations, no debating, no talks. Why do nice-guy LBH types think they owe the WW an explanation whenever her hair starts to bristle at him? It's her problem, not his. She can get glad in the same rags she got mad. Who cares? He is so scared she'll think he doesn't care that he ruins his chances by responding too quickly, with too much excitement, and too much talk.
perfect Sandi... thanks for this. I can keep the focus. I don't think I reacted that poorly to the temp check, did you? Of course it could always be better. Maybe my mind reacted poorly to it. I was mainly just venting/ questioning things on here. The reason why I do that is to get these types of responses. So I can learn a bit, think about what people say and drive it into my head. I think I am getting it.
This was the first time I had this happen to me, so yes my mind spun a bit but at least my actions were in control. Next time, my mind will spin less and my actions will be better. I can handle this... I will handle this.
