Actually, I don't agree with the posters above.

It took a lot of courage for your ex to say those things. And he is showing his commitment to change by getting spiritual advice.

I suspect your shocked, prolonged silence led him to believe he was "too little, too late" as he said, for you to consider reconciliation.

If you WANT a reconciliation with him, then ask him directly: "Are you asking for a second chance with me?"

If he says yes - go very slowly and make sure he demonstrates proper behavior and transparency every step of the way.

If you DON'T want a reconciliation - that's your right! You don't have to go back if you don't want to.

But I suspect your ex was just too ashamed and scared to come right out and ask you for a second chance.