I have been following your thread(s) for some time.
This jumped out at me:
Originally Posted By: Zeus
Anymore I just think that most people are complete bull$hit. I've really been freaked out lately by how many people on this board consider divorce a reasonable option. And how many people are looking for their next partner so soon. And how many people are ok with something less than a committed relationship. I'm not saying they're all wrong. But when I say it, I don't feel I'm crazy either for saying that there is something important and special about having one relationship, that it is irreplaceable, and that when the irreplaceable is lost it takes a long time to process and you should take that time, and then, maybe, someday when I'm ready to build a second relationship, I want that one to be irreplaceable as well.
Let me ask you this:
What is "reasonable option"? What does that look like to you? That is an odd way to put it here in DB forum when every SINGLE poster is here fighting long and hard to preserve their marriages thus getting bruised in the process.
That was a headscratcher for me.
Ginger has done a good job of reframing this discussion with you so I will not butcher her eloquent posts here.
You're still in pain and I think it keeps you stuck from experiencing what life has to offer. People move at different speeds. That is okay. There's no right or wrong way to go about it. Just because you have the Zeus yardstick doesn't necessarily mean that every one has to follow it.
I get it that you feel wounded. You are mourning the loss of your family and marriage. Don't let that stop you from meeting someone special down the road. Don't let the fears get in the way of the process.
