It sounds like you have strength. That is good. You'll need it. I agree, don't be a doormat and help him get his selfish way. Nobody respects a doormat and you don't have a prayer if he doesn't respect you. Respect yourself first and foremost and except nothing less than respect from him. You're separated, true enough, but you're still married. You're still his wife and that gives you some say in the relationship.
