Ah Guys, I woke up the other morning and had some lovely posts waiting for me - and I so appreciated it - thank you. Cali, thanks so much for your wise words. It is true that I need to let the 'could I, should I' etc go. I certainly feel largely at peace with what I have done since BD, and that is the main thing.

RD and Pink (Bro and Sis) - thank you. RD, it is good to hear you call my H a 'dope' and thank you for your description of me. Sometimes I find myself thinking - maybe I'm just not all that great to live with and somehow I don't see it? Like it' some who is in denial rather than otherwise. Not a healthy train of thought I know. And Pink, you are so kind too. Rai, thank you for the hug and the song recommendation - I'll look that one up, and Bttrfly - thanks for the hug. smile

I've been doing okay really. This week was a busy one with work. I worked four days, then covered at the bookstore all day today. It has been good to be so busy and has taken my mind off things - settled me again. Tomorrow, my oldest friend and her son are coming for lunch and we are going out for the afternoon. Mon and Tues I'm working away and then I'm out for a drink with my divorce group chums Tues evening. Thurs, is a ladies social group beauty pamper evening. I had my first singing lesson yesterday - the singing part was a bit excruciating after 20 years break - but my teacher seems to think we can do some stuff together and was very encouraging. Oh, and I signed up for a new walking group.

It's been pretty quiet from H. A couple exchanges about house stuff. It's weird, he will prompt something and this time I responded back with a simple query. It then took him two days to come back with a simple answer. Then I did what was asked and confirmed, and no reply. The good thing about this is I just tend to shrug now. My L wrote to his early last week asking them to propose a settlement, and we haven't heard back since then. I'm a little twitchy about that as I thought we were pretty much there with the figures - but I guess time will tell on that one.

Hope you all have a great weekend xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus