Hi Pink, I agree with what RD and Job say. Your H was unburdening himself to you, and he clearly feels some remorse for all that has happened. Truly I would love to hear some of what your H said from my H. The closest my H got so far was to say - he knew he'd made some mistakes, but he hopes I see that he's a genuine guy who really knows what he wants now!
This is the time where you need to sit still and let the storm pass over. There is no need to do anything or say anything. It sounds as though you did well to listen to your H. You managed not to be reactive or to push him further than he wanted to go. All of that is really good.
I agree that he is still baking in the oven. This meeting may be followed by a pop back down the rabbit hole and some more 'self-centred' behaviour. Or it may be followed by further mature behaviour. I think the main thing is accept what he gives you right now and seek nothing more. Just switch back into going about your business and coparenting as before. Time will tell how things will unfold.
Take care Sweetheart, and be glad for what you have been given xx
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
