I actually do think she still cares. Maybe not in the way I would like, but I think she does. This is all so confusing for me. I'm placing all my faith in these methods and hoping they work. I don't think there's a better method, but I don't have a lot of hope I guess. On the one hand, it seems like there's a good chance for us: 1) The breakup was hard for both of us and she said a lot of positive things about the relationship. 2) She was never mean or cruel during the process. 3) She wants to be fair re my financial situation. 4) She said she has "serious concerns" about OW, and that "something isn't quite right but I don't know what..." 5) She says she's not happy right now, and friends have said that she's struggling.
But then I think I really want one more talk with her. We sort of drifted apart at the end, and it's really hard for me. I know I don't want to beg or plead, and I don't want to hear that she's happy with OW. And I know I can't control what I hear from her, so I shouldn't have the talk at all. It just hurts so much and I'm still crying every day since I first heard there was someone else in early November, right through early January when she said she's moving forward with the OW. Words that still cut like a razor.
I just set up another phone session with my coach for tomorrow. I try and I try, but I'm so fragile and so sad.
NO MORE TALKING WITH W!!! Seriously. Drop the darn rope.
Live your life and embrace it! The world's your oyster. You're still looking in the rearview window at W. Know what happens when people keep looking at the rearview mirror? You will hit the tree that's in your path.
No more talking to W. I know you're hurting. For now, you are going have to forget about W. You are not #1 for her right now.
Who's looking out for #1? No one, but YOU. Then start with that. I am telling you that the A with the OW will collapse in due course. It won't happen today. It won't happen 2 weeks. It won't happen in 2 months. It will be MONTHS AND MONTHS before it all falls apart.
Then whatchagonna do in the meantime? Sit in a dark room and watch the amazing life pass by "out there."
Yeah! Get an haircut, buy a new outfit, new perfume, new lipstick....
Be the awesome NEW you!!!
Boy walking with confidence will blow EVERYONE away. I do this a lot. Oh and I smile at everyone. Say "hi" to people walking down the street, entering a building, etc....it does work. Try that, NYG.
DO.NOT.TALK.WITH.W! Even if I have to, I'll crawl through the computer monitor/tablet and grab you.
Let the skittish squirrel come to you. That's how we do it here in DBland.
Heck, I am even DBing one or two gals....it WORKS. Yep, those principles work when it is actually applied and adhered to faithfully.
