11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
NYGal...very funny..I needed a laugh this am as my WAW is being brutal and killing me with trips she is taking ....hope you don't get too much snow this weekend..I am in philly and we are supposed to get hit hard.
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....
I know once I got fired from my job, my boss wouldnt hire me back because I brought her soup. How does that make me a better employee? I have a good personal relationship with my boss; if I was fired, it would be because of failures to perform. Sucking up to my ex-boss wouldnt change her mind about my job skills.
Dont do it. It will be seen as complete pursuit. "You dont think I can handle myself on my own?"
It is pursuit. Unless she is incapable of taking care of herself, best to stay out of the way.
She'll want to rehire you after you have moved on to owning your own business or when you have a new job.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
I am in the tornado right now of "what weekends are you going away and what weekends am I " so we don't need to spend time togehter. I know many here have had their relationship hit the rocks and work there way back or not.
And the finance discussions have started. [censored] to be and feel so final but i have to keep DB'ing.
Has anyone had a W or H that is actually the walk away and they seemed pissed? I should be the one pissed!!! She keeps bringing up little things around the house that I need to do, this and that.....seems angry. I would think since she is checked out she wouldnt give a damn.
I want to sleep and wake up with a new life.
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....
And the finance discussions have started. [censored] to be and feel so final but i have to keep DB'ing.
It was final as soon as BD. You just werent ready to start accepting that as truth. This is just ironing out the details.
Originally Posted By: rich4j
Has anyone had a W or H that is actually the walk away and they seemed pissed? I should be the one pissed!!!
Of course they are pissed. Theyre like a caged animal waiting to be set free! And you are the guy standing there keeping the cage closed. Theres really nothing you can do but open the door and let them experience life, and realize that what they have right now isnt so bad.
Probably time to start setting some boundaries, man. She's running all over you.
You two don't need to figure out the finances, that's what she's paying a lawyer to do, right? so let him do his job. If she's curious, she can figure it out on her own. For God's sake don't help her!
You are the one being left, what right does she have to demand anything from you around the house? focus on you and your D.
If she wants to get confrontational, you have every right to not engage and walk away, so do it.
Don't let her get "snippy" with you. You tell her "I don't let people talk to me that way, and I won't let you talk to me that way, either." then you walk away.
Let her be pissed off. She isn't respecting you in this process AT ALL. You literally owe her nothing. That doesn't mean you meet fire with fire, though. let her burn herself to the ground.
FYI,
I'm not saying there is or isn't an A, but she may be looking to move quickly for a reason.
FYI2: you're from PA, right? PA is a "fault-based" State, which means PA will give it weight to an Affair in D cases, which in turn, can be used as leverage for you if you are concerned with your finances.
Many say not to snoop, but in this case, you may be protecting yourself.
Would she talk to her friends as she is talking to you? No.
Then tell her.
Don't talk to me like I'm crap on your shoe, you wouldn't talk to any of your friends like that, so don't do it with me. Then walk away.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
