Yesterday's gone. Tomorrow's not here... (2)

[gs9]

You're not being cold you're being cool guy.

[Vanilla]

Spot on!

V

[pinn]

so it looks like she was a little aggravated at my lack of response, hope I am following the right path here...

she texted today with

"Cool. Anyways... I haven't received and tax stuff yet bla bla bla"

Any thoughts??... I feel like I should say something here.

I could say... "Ok.. thanks for letting me know"

seems a bit cold though

[otw]

was she asking you for tax stuff for letting you know she hasnt received anything that you will need to get from her?

I agree though I would sound as happy as possible in a response and say "No problem, just keep me posted. Have a good one!"

and thats it.

[pinn]

Thanks OTW.

she was letting me know that she hasn't received it yet...

yea that is a more friendly and happy than what I was thinking. I need to remember that. I like your suggestion.

I guess on the bright side.. my lack of response seems to have bothered her. Actually that whole exchange must have thrown her for a loop... I am positive the response I gave was not what she was expecting.

[pinn]

she replies with....

"why are you always so short with me?"

then with...

"trust me I get that you don't want to talk to me but you could at least not always make me feel like you're done talking the second I say anything"

I don't want to drive her away obviously. Btw shes barely freaking texted me in the past 7 months. A little at xmas, and then the past 2 days. I want to lay into her hard for that comment above but I won't.

I could say something... like "I'm sorry just busy at work"

Or should I say more... I of course do want to talk to her... any thoughts on this one? I feel this is kind of an important point. I don't want to drive her off, but I also don't want to blow any progress.

[otw]

That is classic. She is not getting you waiting on her every word and jumping at the chance to speak to her.

Your thoughts on a response I believe are correct. But do not apologize. She decided to have you gone. Respond. " not trying to be short just busy days recently". Leaves her curious about what is so busy in your life.

This may lead to more texts. You need to be very careful how much you give. Once she has you back into her she may pull away. You want to not be the one chasing.
I'm betting she is doing a lot of thinking.

[pinn]

ugh.. this is going to be harder than I thought. I can handle the lil BS texts OK... but if she keeps up with the ones like above... it is harder. Guess I am not used to it so my mind is not trained for them yet.

I don't want her to stop contacting me. It is a very fine line to walk here. I don't want her to be like, hey I tried, he's being an ahole, forget him.

Anyway, thanks OTW. I think I will go with that type of response. I will just a wait a bit to see if there are any other thoughts.

[otw]

Def wait for more responses! I am very curious what others think

[pinn]

ah well... sent it already

she responded with:

"right...I'll just get the taxes to you at some point"

ugh... feel like I messed up