First time poster-needs advice

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I have now successfully gone for over a week without initiating any contact with my H. It wasn't easy, but I am a little proud of myself that I was able to do it. Ironically, I got a lot more texts/phone calls this week from him than I have in the recent past. I realize it means nothing, and I do try to continue to tell myself that so as not to get my hopes up.
In my last post I mentioned I'm still having trouble with the believe none of what they say. I know when he is upset and talking at me, to not believe everything he says, but I really am trying to find things that I need to work on for me for the future either with or without him. Things that made him walk away.
I met my H at a fairly young age, and he really is the only man I've loved. I want to know things I've done that led to the distance that was created between us. All I ever seem to get from him is...I don't know what happened, I just don't feel like I want to be around you or talk to you. I've also heard him say I just don't feel what a husband is supposed to feel for a wife. To me, that's not much to go on.
So any male perspective would be really helpful.