Ugghhh, have I mentioned this is hard?

[SciDad]

Sorry to spill on your board, SciDad.

I feel for you, man. Keep posting. Maybe we can figure a way out of our messes that keeps our marriages together. If you have any ideas, share them.

Don't apologize Trumpet. It doesn't bother me and I think some of the best revelations happen when your posting on someone else's thread

I'm still not sure what I'm going to do. If I had some great insights believe me I'd be sharing and shouting them from the rooftops. I see glimmers of hope through what I'm doing now, but it's hard to interpret if they are reality or simply what I want to see. My situation isn't as far down the road as yours because my wife never filed, but I know that she was probably close. How close I'll never know because I kinda screwed her plans up by finding out about the OM and confronting her before she could fully walk away.

Let's stick together and see what we can come up with. Not just for our marriages, but as Fathers and men. I know that despite this pain I will emerge from this stronger, a better person. And I know you will too. Scars build character, after all.