I feel like I’m getting to the point when I am ready to make some decisions in my life. Whatever it will be, I don’t know yet. Will I file for D? Will I push H to do that? Will I start dating? All I know that I’m making plans for my vacations this year and for the first time I’m not even feeling held back by not having H participating. I still don’t want to do the solo vacations. I’m trying to find a companion, one of my GFs, or my family.
There are some things that have been on my mind recently. I will post them later.
First, I want to reply to the posts on my previous thread. Job and Irish, thanks for your posts and advice. I sent another e-mail to that layer, asking him to not share my info and that I didn’t authorize any further steps regarding my will. I essentially told him that I will not be retaining his services. Got a lengthy e-mail back from him explaining why he shared my info and wishing my luck, blah, blah, blah… It doesn’t look like he is going to push anything else. It is over and I’m happy. Job, to your point, I will be careful next time.
Job, I see what you mean when you say “No one really knows what goes thru their minds”. I feel that it is what’s going on with H at this time. The golf fees are part of the HOA, even though they are billed separately. He can sell his owner's card to somebody else. I don’t think he will do that though. He will rather eat “rice and beans”, but will retain his privilege to play golf any time he wants (it would be free after the annual fee is paid.)
Irish, thanks for stopping by. I’ve been keeping up with your threads, and just want to say that you are doing an amazing job with your Ds. I will pop up on your thread to say the same. I find it interesting about your W’s mail. I wonder if she changed the forward address or removed it, LOL. Like job mentioned, you just don’t know what is going on through their minds.
And, speaking of that, I’ve been noticing some different patterns in H’s “behavior”. Well, as much as I can get from the texts and e-mails. So, after his text telling me that he needed to think about where I should mail his driver’s license, there was nothing from him for 4 days. Then I received a text about his usual monthly money transfer for the condo. He also asked me “Am I going to need to come to “my town” to sign anything by the end of January?” I found the wording of this interesting… It’s like “pilling teeth”, right! Or… maybe a misleading statement to make it look like he doesn’t really want to come, but there are things that need to get done, LOL. IDK, it just feels this way, and I’m not even analyzing it to my benefit (like looking for some signs…)
So, I replied back thanking him for the money transfer (always a validation… even though this money transfer it more beneficial to him than me), and then told him that I don’t think there is anything he needs to sign this month. He replied with “Ok I will send an address to you tomorrow to send the DL to. Thanks again”.
He did send me the address next day, which is the PO box address in the border town that he already gave me a couple of other times. Hahaha, MLC memory loss… I mailed the package a couple of days later and sent him an update. I also texted him that I have a request for current mileage on all cars on our car insurance policy. Here is my actual text “On another note, AAA needs the mileage for all cars for renewal. If you still want to maintain the policy, please send me the numbers.” His reply: “Will do, thanks”.
It’s been two days and there is no reply. All these delayed replies are so unusual for H. Normally, he was up to the point. Plus, I’m thinking it should be no brainer, right… He wanted so badly to get out of this M and get rid of his W (me)… I think that he would not mind to pay for his own insurance policy, even if it would be a few hundred bucks a year more expensive, but he would not have to deal with me. I just don’t get it. Sometimes I think that this recent change in H’s behavior is a test. I used to be very impatient when I needed some info or a response to complete something I was doing. I would get on his case pushing for an answer. Well, H, I’m very different now. I have this patience shovel that I borrow from people on this board…
Or, maybe he is in a deeper depression now and just cannot make any decisions. He seems to make sense when he replies to me though… I guess I will just wait and see what he comes up with. Maybe he is trying to search for another car insurance, which he did last year and a year before that as well and ended up renewing our joint policy, LOL. Another case of memory loss?
Or, sometimes I think that he is “distributing” his replies to me over time, to keep me on the hook… To remind me of himself… Funny thing is that I keep thinking that I would rather not “hear” from H that often. I need to pick up the speed with moving on… and his texts and contacts are these little obstacles in my course... Not enough to derail the train, but enough to slow it down a bit.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
