Where I am...

[mahhhty]

G & Jelly. Thank you very much! That was helpful, and I appreciate you looking out for me!

This rings true.
"Right now, you need to be seen as the hero and that means having virtue, and behaving in such a way that your intentions and character cannot be called into question."

I'm an easy going guy, I can (as you know) over analyze, at the end I was critical and not my self with respect to her.

I think they (my friends) feel that I should take more of a stern approach. I also think they believe I let her walk all over me.

Most importantly my kids. I think it is selfish and inappropriate that she is letting him sleep over (also picking him up from the airport and bringing him to family functions). I have said nothing. But surely in a time where she is going in for surgery and the kids know she is sick I believe it to be ridiculous.