Don't get me wrong, nor be hard on yourself about detaching. You are looking at the poster boy for "Detachment-Failures" I think out of the core DB principles... GAL, 180, PMA, Detach.... Detachment is far and away the hardest and add in a multiplier if you have children, it's brutal and feels like the exact opposite of what one should do .... Especially for us guys who receive the " you were never there for me"
Keep in mind detachment is not done out of punishment ... Nor is it an overnight thing, look at it like a weight loss program, you aren't going to chop off your own legs to lose a quick 50lbs, how do you do it? Lifestyle change (GAL) and keep at it... Slowly and consistently ... This is why the GAL portion is so important. Once you do start getting the hang of detachment your W will feel it and test you to no end... Yup, it does not get easier
Another thing, you have to work on yourself a bit... It's all fresh and new but start thinking about this... Not specifically the top ten list your wife has that is all wrong about you, but things you would like to change now... Start small, I'm here to tell you the smallest changes launch into the big ones , this time-out you've been given you can do one of two things.... Fixate and obsess about your w and what she is doing... Or build a better you, you honestly only have the power to do one of these things right?
The focus is definitely shifting to me. W texted me his fingers look better. They look good. Do I still want her to take him to Dr?
I am going to leave it for awhile. What I want to say is if you think it's fine I trust you will act accordingly. Just don't want to say I trust your judgment.
I don't know if she is keeping updated or looking for advice and guidance.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
I just said glad they are better if you feel they need liked at do it
Then she tried to engage me with how S3 wants to decorate his room. That will get no response. It's almost to the point where I am going to say. Unless it's an emergency with the kids or something very important like you have money for me. Leave me alone
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
She will begin to feel you pull away, keep your side of the street clean and reply kindly, read the 37 till it sinks in and you understand why they are the golden rules
She has texted me several times today. The only thing I have relied about was little guys fingers. Taking 3 hours to reply as I was busy at school allowed me to rethink the wording. At first I was going to say I think it's fine. Which would be putting my thoughts on her. It's not that I don't care when she texts me cute things te boys do. I do. Cause it's the boys.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
I'm getting the feeling she feels me distancing. And uses the boys to get response because she knows my children are very important to me. Angers me she is doing that a bit. Just gotta keep it up. First thing. Stop caring about this! Haha
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
