My view is that WH is deflecting to take the focus off his own behaviour. That is arriving home at midnight when he is M.

On the basis that attack is the best form of defence. You then put the focus on yourself rather than him. Clever tactic of WH, he will keep using it as long as it works. My answer was eventually ' I don't agree let's leave it at that'. When WH persisted ' I don't want to go to that place at the moment, I need to sleep/eat/make bottom burps/go laugh like a drain." Then broken record with a smile "not now" and "I am too tired/hungry/farty bottomed/headached/etc" and "please stop" and "I have asked you to stop"

Then I recorded the convo.

I like Al Turtle on Boundaries and recommend his paper on it, written mainly I think for teenagers, it's very understandable. Well it was to me, and useful tool to explain to others.

V

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW