I've travelled alone with D and no one has ever asked me anything. I've heard the same from other moms. Maybe they're more lenient with women.
He is holding a lot of cards but he will prob be surprised when he realizes I refuse to budge on the child support payments. I don't know if ow is pushing him. I think it's all his own doing. Either way it doesn't matter. Not signing anything I'm not happy with. And I'll see the lawyer before and after mediation. And likely throughout as well. I'd rather pay now than later.