Hi Sotto. I am the sole earner. As I have mentioned recently, my WW is acting so entitled. I raised the same concern with my L. As my L is the one drafting temporary court orders, I asked her if we can incorporate some spending limits. We will be meeting by phone to discuss this further. I actually capture screenshots of credit card statements and the like. Unfortunately, as I mentioned, she could be accruing debt on her personal cards as well. Also, she is not sharing receipts with me.
re: detaching. Moments ago a friend invited me to his house for wings. Should be fun. Unfortunately, these are few and far between. Still working on it. I think I am finally catching up on my workload, so perhaps I can expand the GAL again soon.
re: separation. Not soon enough for me. I would love to no longer have to see my STBXW. It is very hard and I have noticed many new grey hairs recently (amongst the ones that haven't already fallen out, anyway). I was reading Caliguy's thread (I think it was his) and he described how WW puts LBH in Hzone, FriendZone, or AholeZone. Unfortunately, I think I am in the latter. Not entirely undeserved, but not entirely deserved either. We have minimal contact, but the few interactions that we do have are curt and brief, with no warmth in the tone at all (hers or mine). This is so NOT the real me. Anyhow, by my staying in the house, we must have convinced the magistrate that we are both equally parenting, because the temporary orders will be giving us joint custody. So, as painful as it has been and continues to be, it is status quo for now and the foreseeable future. I stopped by your thread, and it seems like you are very close to the final settlement. I may actually be 18 months away. When I reflect on this, I want to cry or run away. I am in Dr. Seuss's "waiting place", from Oh, The Places you'll go.
