Just caught up on what you're going through (both threads) and thought I'd chime in.
First...definitely do not sign anything until your own attorney looks over it. My XW filed for an uncontested D and when I got the papers I read through them, made a list of the things that were unacceptable or that I wanted changed, and sent them to an attorney to review for me, make suggestions, and give advice about how to get what I want, things to be wary of, and things to not worry about.
Invaluable for peace of mind if nothing else.
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I still see her a lot, is that going to drag the grieving process out much longer than it would otherwise?
Everyone's different. I don't really see my XW much at all (only been officially divorced a week or so, but separated since Oct). Given no interest on her part to reconcile, I have seen her a handful of times since Oct and at this point it helps me a lot. I don't have any real interest in seeing her. And there was a lot of alcohol abuse and infidelity on her part, and no serious apology or attempt to mend fences, so my opinion of her is pretty negative anyway. Every sitch is different.
They key is moving forward and focusing on what's best for you in life that you have control over.
