WW, My Addiction, Patience, and HOPE

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Thanks JGuy.

Yes, when I detach, I'm a bit cold. The more I did it, the better I was able to open up a bit.
When there's hope, I re-engaged into the relationship, and realized I wasn't an innocent betrayed spouse - I had done more than the average bear in my marriage. So, the first month after BD was really tough - my addiction is under control, and my physical need for sex is on the shelf now. It just has to be.

I'm more of a talker than the average male. I have a pretty good handle on my emotions, what they are, what am I feeling? Counseling will do that to you as well.

If my WW does have the desire to R, it will have to be something she will work on herself for a while. I didn't think I had an addiction. It might take her being divorced, losing me, and splitting the kids to realize she had her own side of the road to clean up. Everyone has something to tend to - when we think we're perfect, and don't need fixing, that is the beginning of the end for us. Life will always shatter that image.