Hi NYGal, Friends knowing anything always backfired for me. Under the inexplicable behavior and anger is guilt, and when you fuel the guilt (other knowing anything) it tends to turn to anger and more entrenchment in being right about her choice... the less people that know, the easier the path back for her. Let her be the one to explain... you take the high road. Be around your friends, if you can, without commenting.
I really like this advice. Maybe I shouldn't go to the game. Lots of friends will be there, but I don't really want to interact with them. I shouldn't talk about the affair with our friends. I should keep the path clear for her to come back to me. They'll know anyhow. It will all come out. But how do I keep these friendships and not let them know what's really going on? Part of me still feels the need to let everyone know what a scumbag W is, but that won't help me get her back, will it?
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
