Sci, I am sorry for where you are right now. It's time to set firm boundaries for yourself and for your W. Don't be a doormat and don't be an option. You are better than that.
Me-40's W- 40's Married 22, Together 29 BD#1- 6/15 W needs space BD#2- OM confirmed PA 1/8/16 Still both home, but not for long