LBH w/ a WXW after the D - now what

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Met with my IC last night. I've been reflecting on my pain. How am I managing it? Dealing with it?
Early on in my WXW A's b4 DBing (4 acronyms in a row)I managed my anger by redirecting that energy into loving her unconditionally. Which we all know does not work.
I then managed my pain by GALing and probably GALing too much and going to the gym. But now what? The D is final. She should be moving out end of this month. My grieving time has been delayed because of this process being drug out. Like a band aide slowing being pulled off. So the pain is probably going to get worse.
What I am realizing is I've never learned to deal with pain in a healthy way as an adult. My first heart break happened about the same time I was introduced to drinking and since then I have always suppressed pain with alcohol and women. Not healthy.

After speaking with my IC about it I'm hoping to use and develop some skills we spoke about. We, of course, spoke about giving it to God. He will comfort us. Pray about it. But we also spoke about "sitting in my pain". Just sitting, crying and being in the moment. Allowing myself to experience it in little dosages and eventually building a tolerance to it. Going to definitely work on this instead of getting drunk.