When she wavers, it has been, "Yes, I felt that connection and it surprised me. And I thought about it. But staying together when I know it would be just to not upset the apple cart is for the wrong reasons. I don't think I could love you again or ever be intimate"
When she wavers? You said she's been firm and consistent. I'm sorry, but I don't see this as working through feelings.
Tell me, b/c I would really like to know, why a man wants to remain with a woman who tells him she no longer loves and can't see herself ever being intimate with him again? Do you not believe her? Do you think you know her real feelings better than she knows herself? Do you think you can persuade her to stay in the M and that she'll change her mind?
I believe if more LBH'S would give the WW what she says she wants, there would be more reconciliations. I know this may not be what you would hear from everyone else, but mostly b/c they are doing the same thing.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
