Rollercoaster at rest: now what?

[gs9]

I noticed on a lot of threads that the Wayward Spouses text us a lot during the week. Not so much on weekends when they are with the OP. This is too much. I've got to quit focusing on her/them. I'm torturing myself.

Pulled this from another thread you were on.

I met with my IC last night. I learned from him that creating distractions is a healthy coping skill for dealing with pain. It helped me realize the distractions I've created help me not have to experience the pain 24/7. I believe this is the foundation of GALing. This is why GALing is so important.

Create some distractions. Focus on you.

Try not to analyze when she texts and when she doesn't. Be the best you can be. She will hear. She will notice. Keep moving forward. If she catches up, GREAT! If not you don't want her back anyway.