Mu, I think for me the assertiveness will gradually insert itself. As I gain more self respect, more clarity, more confidence I will automatically assert myself where appropriate. But I welcome any feedback

Oh I forgot to mention, that I am really starting to like the guy in the mirror. This ishuge for me. I am not saying I am perfect or anything like that but after years of never really liking myself, I am finally feeling good about ME. Again there is room for improvement, but my opinion of myself has taken a big upturn and is rising.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together