WW, My Addiction, Patience, and HOPE

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Trumpet,
I am no expert here, but I think that you need to lower/kill your expectations for now. The roller coaster you are currently on (everyone here is on one) is attached to your expectations for reconciliation.
Of course you want your W back. We all want back the girls we married.
I don't know how long it will take for your W to fully clear from the fog, but I know it probably won't be any time soon.
And the fog clearing is no guarantee that your M will reconcile.
I know you want to save your M badly. Go back and do what has worked.